So the funeral is done

My Dad and I were not close, but years ago I had thought about being a pallbearer for him as a way to show respect. I remember talking about it with a friend many years ago, and he suggested I should not be a pallbearer, but that I should sit with the rest of the family to comfort them. And in my experience, pallbearers are chosen from non-immediate family members, so it's a bit unusual for a son to do it.

I was not involved in the decision -- I was assigned by my sister and Mom. I was glad to do it, and was joined by my 2 nephews, a close cousin and his son, and then someone else I did not know.